A Successful Conversation

Ninety-five percent of conversation should be about the other person… five percent about yourself.

Always be asking questions and create small talk – but make it fun small talk – if you’re at a social event or dating, be sure it’s flirting or even seductive small talk. When asking questions, be sure you’re not asking questions that end up with one-word answers – probe for some details and have that other person feel like you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say.

Don’t forget to keep your body language in check and smile!

Get Rid of the Phone

I know, we live in a connected world, and everyone’s cell phone is a must have life-line, but too often we’re ignoring life when our face is buried in the phone.

Start with the small things — put the phone away when walking, ordering something, or otherwise interacting with someone. Strike up some simple conversation instead – even the over used, “what do you think of the weather” line is a place to start. After all, you’re here to learn to improve your social skills – and being buried in your phone isn’t the way to do it (unless you’re reading the latest SocialAwesomeness blog post).

Social Power Words

Review this list of social “power words” and come up with some examples of how to use them when in conversation.

Absolutely, Amazing, Approved, Attractive, Authentic, Bargain, Beautiful, Better, Big, Colorful, Colossal, Complete, Confidential, Crammed, Delivered, Direct, Discount, Easily, Endorsed, Enormous, Excellent, Exciting, Exclusive, Expert, Famous, Fascinating, Fortune, Full, Genuine, Gift, Gigantic, Greatest, Guaranteed, Helpful, Highest, Huge, Immediately, Improved, Informative, Instructive, Interesting, Largest, Latest, Lavishly, Liberal, Lifetime, Limited, Lowest, Magic, Mammoth, Miracle, Noted, Odd, Outstanding, Personalized, Popular, Powerful, Practical, Professional, Profitable, Profusely, Proven, Quality, Quickly, Rare, Reduced, Refundable, Remarkable, Reliable, Revealing, Revolutionary, Scarce, Secrets, Security, Selected, Sensational, Simplified, Sizable, Special, Startling, Strange, Strong, Sturdy, Successful, Superior, Surprise, Terrific, Tested, Tremendous, Unconditional, Unique, Unlimited, Unparalleled, Unsurpassed, Unusual, Useful, Valuable, Wealth, Weird, Wonderful.

If you have some fascinating examples, please share in the comments below!

Failing and Succeeding

“I’ve failed over, over, and over again in my life. And that is why…..I succeed.” – Michael Jordan

Think about that for a moment… Are you sitting in limbo right now – studying this web site and others – waiting until you feel you have it all mastered before you get out there and wow the world (or just the woman or man next door). Stop jerking yourself around – you need real world practice – including the experience of failures.

Get out there right now – today or tonight. Go for a walk and chat up the first person you see!

Just Smile!

Be certain that you’re smiling… but just a ‘half smile’ – make it visible to those around you, but don’t be sporting a massive cheesy grin… make sure it’s not a ‘smirk’ either – an honest, genuine smile.

Now, as simple as that sounds, if you’ve never really been much for smiling in the past, you may think of yourself as smiling when in fact you aren’t – so, as silly as it sounds, get yourself in front of a mirror and do some practicing!

Too Many Precautions

The chief danger in life is that you may take too many precautions.

–Alfred Adler

If you’re worried about the outcome of approaching that cute girl or guy, then stop it!
Put absolutely no ‘terms’ on the outcome of your interaction and see how much better (and easier) it is!

The same goes for the majority of your other social interactions. Get out of your head and stop thinking about the possible outcome (which you’ll always consider negative), and just start your interactions!